We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are

afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he

would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is

the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and

requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a

suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,

good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in

singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home

during my

leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I

need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."

The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a

blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the

faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of

the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and

dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the

excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower

another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love

will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after

marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying

which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech

will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off

because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we

always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.

A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember

me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her

millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you

will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should

appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be

another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the

way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on

the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the

donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and

commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride

on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can

the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."

The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.

Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you

hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing

that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the

donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell

into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will

everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of

his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his

three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of

the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the

little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he

finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When

the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he

innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked,

"but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home &

committed

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u

wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with

someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings

often can't.. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between

the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions